Shooting for the moon.

moon-tree-stars“Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss you will land among stars.” Les Brown.

Who doesn’t want to shoot for the moon? To aim for something spectacular in life? To feel that life can be filled with infinite possibilities? I hope that you do.

Or is your belief that shooting for the moon is only for those who are special in some way? And you’re not good enough? Well, it’s not and you are.

When I was reminded of this quote this week, it made me smile. It’s clichéd and twee but with the right frame of mind it’s uplifting and fun. I say in the right frame of mind because I know that in the past I would have looked at it and thought that there was no point in me shooting for the moon, because there was no prospect of success. And there was no chance of my landing in the stars. Much more likely I would fall down a black hole and spiral further into my depressed and alcoholic oblivion.

“What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise.” ~ Oscar Wilde.

A childhood of being repeatedly reminded that I was worthless, ugly, fat and inadequate in every way, laid the foundation of an adult who became a self-fulfilling prophesy. I never believed in myself and couldn’t imagine anything good happening in my life.

There was no point having dreams because they would be crushed. There was no point having goals because they would never be achieved. There was no point planning for accomplishments because I was a failure. There was no point looking for love because I was unlovable.

It was hard to break out of that victim mentality. It took some radical rethinking and a strong will to change my life, but slowly I was able to overcome the negativity in my past and start to view my future with renewed optimism.

I remember a counsellor who having listened to my woes of my abandoning mother and abusing father as my justification for my emotional and physical wreckage, looked me straight in the eye and asked, ‘What makes you different?’ Essentially what she was saying was that we all have difficulties no matter who we are and we all have a choice as to how to deal with them. She was right. I was no different to anyone else.

Life is tough for everyone at different times and at different levels. Your response to challenges is what sets you apart. You don’t  have to beat yourself up when things don’t go to plan. You don’t have to give up because the moon is further away than you thought and it is harder to reach than you ever imagined.

Instead you can determine to enjoy the ride bumps and all. And you can use the hardships and heartaches as platforms for learning and growing.Keep your moon in sight and at the same time look around and find some stars to use as stepping-stones to your destination. Remember that a breakdown can be the experience that broke you or helped you break through.

“I’m not where I need to be, but thank God I’m not where I used to be. I’m OK, and I’m on my way!”  ~ Joyce Meyer.

My mindset used to come from a combination of never feeling good enough with comparing myself to others whose lives seemed perfect. If that rings a bell with you, let me give you some advice. Give yourself a break. Affirm with yourself that It’s okay not to be perfect. It’s okay to make mistakes.

As long as you are accountable, honest, realistic and genuine in making amends, it is possible to begin again free from shame and regret. Forgive yourself and celebrate the fact that you are a work in progress. You can change but the moon doesn’t have to. It will still be there to guide and inspire you.

“No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined the things that God has prepared for those who love him.” ~  1 Corinthians 2:9

For me though, passion and purpose are meaningless unless I have faith. Faith not only reassures me but fills me with expectations of what can be achieved. With the belief that the possibilities are endless and the impossible can be made possible, life becomes a journey filled with aspirations and hope .

Whatever your spiritual convictions, dare to dream that there is something greater than you wanting the best for you. Use your intuition to find and follow your heart’s desires. Reach into your unconscious and become consciously inspired.

“Yesterday is but today’s memory, and tomorrow is today’s dream.” ~ Khalil Gibran

file0001409747445No one knows what tomorrow will bring. But I do know that  I want to be a better person tomorrow than I was today. I don’t want to exist. I want to live. I don’t want to survive. I want to thrive.

I want today to be as good as it can be and for tomorrow to be even better. I want to shoot for the moon, for the stars and for everything else that there is out in the universe. Anyone want to join me?

Thank you to Paul at Message in a Bottle whose post http://messageinabottleblog.wordpress.com/2013/06/19/sainthood-scrupulousness-and-the-emerging-case-of-the-now-whats/ inspired me for this post.

Crossing the Bridge of Dreams.

It’s good to dream.  A dream can be anything you want it to be, as your mind takes you to a place of endless possibilities and infinite destinies.

It can be an imaginary world that you visit from time to time. You enjoy it for that moment and are happy to keep it as a pleasurable reverie.

However, your dream may involve fulfilling aspirations and visualising your future. If this is true for you, your  desire to turn the fantasy into reality needs to be strong enough to manage the transition. Change is never easy and it will involve leaving behind the familiar whilst moving towards the unknown. You have to cross the bridge of dreams.

“Without leaps of imagination, or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning.” Gloria Steinem

What has begun in the imagination will need to be transformed into actuality. You need a plan and plenty of passion to navigate your path. Whilst the road you have come from is routine and comfortable the bridge of dreams will cross you over into new and exhilarating territory.

A word of warning – beware of those who tread on your dreams. In the past I have had my hopes crushed. It happened so much that I stopped dreaming on any level. Life was about survival and to believe that good things could come to me was delusional. It took me a long time to realise that those who’d suppressed my desires had been damaged themselves. So now, I can allow myself to dream. That’s a good place to be.

If you want to cross your bridge of dreams you don’t have to do it alone. Share your aspirations with those who can support, motivate and inspire you along the way.

Remember there is no right or wrong way of reaching the other side. Run, skip, hop, jump, fly! It doesn’t matter how you reach the other side, only that you get there.

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” Eleanor Roosevelt

Following your dreams isn’t a passive past time. If it was, then everyone would be living ‘happily ever after’. There may be set backs and distractions. The original short-term goal may be replaced with a long-term life plan. Whatever the vision, it can require a combination of determination, courage, faith, and strength.

But isn’t it worth the effort? I think so.

What about you? When will you be crossing the bridge of dreams?

“Crossing the Bridge of Dreams” was inspired by a comment left by Jenny Alexander on ‘Why me? Why not me?’Thank you Jenny!

Images thanks to Sascalia