‘You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.’ – C.S. Lewis
It’s good to dream. As your mind takes you to a place of endless possibilities and infinite destinies a dream can be anything you want it to be. It can be a pleasurable reverie that you enjoy in the moment and let fade.
But the thoughts which lead you to fulfill your aspirations and visualize your future should never be allowed slip away.
Because a life without dreams is a life without hope.
‘Hope is the dream of the waking man.’ – Aristotle
Childhood trauma stole many things from me; my sense of self-esteem, my ability to trust and my capability to expect anything good. For many years my hopes for the future were never an issue because I was too busy trying to numb out the past and the demands of each day were worrying enough.
If you too have been brought up to anticipate the worst, or if your life has been continuously tough, you will understand how hard it can be to be optimistic about your prospects or to follow your desires.
For many years I believed that dreaming was frivolous and pointless. In fact my mantra was, ‘why bother it’ll never happen’. I was convinced this was the best way to protect myself from further disappointment and rejection. Deep down I wanted to envisage success, happiness and love in my life, but I was overwhelmed by my belief that I didn’t deserve any of it.
‘Faith is like a bird that feels dawn breaking and sings while it is dark.’ – Rabindranth Tagore
One of the greatest revelations to me in my journey to recovery was discovering my self-worth. And if you don’t believe that you are worth it then it’s time to started to make that journey too.
For me it started with making the decision to embrace who I was on every level; physical, social, emotional and spiritual. It was a gradual enlightenment stemming from the love that I experienced when I chose to reclaim my faith.
Faith helped me to begin to love myself for who I was and for who I was not. Once I was able to love myself (and my imperfections), I could believe that in not only did my life have a purpose but that I had a right to pursue my passions. As my confidence increased so too did my ability to dream. For faith enabled me to believe in the unimaginable; to reach for the unattainable and to the dream the impossible.
‘Without leaps of imagination, or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning.’ – Gloria Steinem
It’s not enough simply to have aspirations though. What has begun in the imagination has to make the transition into reality. Dreaming isn’t a passive past-time. It’s the active pursuit of your vision and the determined mind-set to see it through.
As someone who battled with depression and alcoholism for 20 years, I often dreamt of being happy and sober. But imagining such a life was futile until I made the commitment to change.
Achieving my dreams took courage, faith and determination. It wasn’t easy and of course there have been many challenges along the way, but the wonderful thing about setting your goals is that you can determine what they are and how you reach them. How long it takes is not important, as long as you keep moving forward.
‘Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.’ – Hebrews 11:1 NIV
Know too that while some aspirations stay the same, your hopes can change too. Yesterday my dream was to reach a day when I could live without a drink. Today I strive for that same goal and it’s also what I wish for tomorrow. God willing that never change.
In sixteen years of recovery, many of my other dreams have transformed as I too have transformed. My ‘why bother, it’ll never happen’ thinking has been replaced with the expectation for good things to transpire. My ‘barely getting by’ attitude has been renewed by anticipating abundance. My ‘I’m not good enough to deserve this’ philosophy has been superseded by the conviction that I am perfectly imperfect which is good enough and always was.
Not every vision has to be a huge life-changing event. Little steps are just as significant. Big or small, it’s never too late to dream.
‘The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.’ – Eleanor Roosevelt
Its such true words that u have shared. There are many times that we don’t feel like we deserve to be happy because of all the pain from the past has crippled us that we can barely see the good or the bright side of anything. It is so beautiful to dream and to stay optimistic.
Don’t forget that your past doesn’t have to define your present. Your joy for today isn’t dependent on what you experienced yesterday. May you never stop dreaming 🙂
Thank you for sharing about dreaming, one of my favorite subjects.
Never stop dreaming Jeanne 🙂
I love that about you! Such an encourager!
Thank you Jeanne. Love you too!
thank you for sharing these words. Trauma of any kind can be so destructive. But thank God, we can dream again and live abundantly whole!
Indeed we can Marvia. Great to see you here!
Yes! Dreams make life better 🙂 By the way I’ve nominated you for One Lovely Blog Award: http://www.monepositiveblog.com/one-lovely-blog-award/
Thank you for your kind comments Magdalena and thank you for the award 🙂
Very exceptional post. I had to learn to dream. It took a long time. But now I dream and know that most will come to. I was abused as a child. But years of therapy and finding my spiritual path has taught me I am loved. That lead to dreams. Hugs and light, Barbara
How wonderful to know that after all that pain you now appreciate how much you are loved. Thank you for your inspiring comments Barbara.
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Thank you for the mention Jeanne Marie 🙂
Encouraging and inspiring!
Thank you Anna! Great to see you here 🙂
This is amazingly powerful Carolyn. I think it’s great that you share your experience with us, especially the bit about changing your mindset to being worthy, and loving yourself with all of your imperfections. It’s true. I used to suffer with depression and hated myself at times. Now I love myself and enjoy my own company. I think positive and push forward with my life at every opportunity. I have shared this on my http://www.facebook.com/beatredundancyblues and http://www.facebook.com/BlogtrainerUK pages #blogquirky
Thank you Sandra for your share. And I’m so glad that you now enjoy your own company and love yourself. You deserve to be loved!
Bless you. I do love myself and my life. I am sat here playing endless dance tunes, typing away with my piggies in the background – Bliss!
Your post is perfect timing for me. Thanks for shining the path for us all! ♥
Thankyou for your kind words ❤
Thank you very much for following and opening the door to you exciting world! Eddie
You’re welcome Eddie. Thank you for following back!
You are so inspiring! Thank you.
Thank you Annarose. So lovely to see you here 🙂
Hi Carolyn! This all sounds so familiar….thank you for shining your beautiful light on the positivity of having awesome dreams!!! ❤
Thank you for visiting Lorrie. Keep on dreaming 🙂
I agree so much Carolyn – I am such a dreamer!! Where would we be without them? Hugs to you xx
Returning the hugs Ruth! Never stop dreaming. xx
I really enjoyed reading your post. It was very uplifting. 🙂
Thank you Carol. Great to see you here 🙂
This is outstanding! Thanks for sharing such an inspirational and affirming post. Hugs and blessings, Natalie 🙂
Bless you Natalie. Have a wonderful day 🙂
Thanks for the encouragement!
That’s good to know Vernon. Thank you!
Thank you Chitra. Great to see you here.
You are incredibly strong… Peace
Glad you enjoyed this. Thank you for visiting. Peace and blessings to you.
You’re so right Carolyn – it’s easy to think we don’t deserve to dream, that it’s selfish or just a waste of time but really it’s so important to give ourselves permission and also to know that we are worth it.
It’s sounds obvious that we need to give ourselves permission but once we do it opens up the door for us to believe in impossible. Keep on dreaming Jane 🙂
***My ‘barely getting by’ attitude has been renewed by anticipating abundance.**
Carolyn, another beautiful post of inspiration, hope, and prayer. It’s comforting to know that in our brokenness, we can still see the light.
Thank you Kim for that lovely reminder. No matter how small that flicker of light is, it can still guide us out of the dark to follow our dreams. xxx
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!
You are very welcome 🙂
a great article, important details. Thank you for sharing it!!
Thank you for commenting Mihran. Lovely to see you here!