A little ray of sunshine.

you are my sunshineKeep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.’ – Helen Keller

Do you believe that every day brings the possibility for a little ray of sunshine? Or does negativity overshadow your life? Is your glass half-empty and running out fast? Or is it half-full and waiting for a sparkling refill? The choice is yours.

An upbeat attitude can bring brighten up the gloomiest of circumstances. Choosing to think positively can revive you when you feel weary, provide clarity in chaos and keep you encouraged during uncertainty And when you make a conscious decision to refuse to allow the darkness to engulf you, you keep the way clear for your optimistic thoughts to shine.

Admittedly there are some days when tragedy strikes or a huge disappointment has to be dealt with and it is impossible to feel anything but despair. That’s a natural and expected way to react to a serious life event. It’s during those times however that you need to dig deep into the warm memories from the past until the shadows of your trauma have passed.

‘Whoever is happy will make others happy too.’ Anne Frank

Some people however have a consistently pessimistic outlook that overshadows everything. Their negativity can be emotionally draining not only for themselves but those around them. My advice is to steer clear of those who continue to wallow in self-pity and misery. You don’t need that in your life.

Instead surround yourself with those who can nurture, support and encourage you. Allow their positive support to strengthen you and motivate you. Happiness is infectious, so keep near to bright, cheerful souls and catch hold of the light. 

If that sounds too simple or too good to be true, I understand. It took me many years to catch hold of that light.

I grew up in a fearful atmosphere of darkness. As a result depression and alcoholism took their hold on my life at an early age. I developed a self-fulfilling prophesy of doom and gloom. Experience taught me not to expect good from anything or anybody, so I set myself up for repeated disappointments.

Whilst I had alcohol – ‘my sunshine in a bottle’, I could manage the rejections and failures in life. But of course my reliance on a drink rapidly developed into addiction and I spiraled into the darkness of despair.

‘Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.’   Psalm 119:105

An alcohol induced suicide attempt signaled the need to give up the drink for good, yet my pessimistic self feared the worst. I couldn’t imagine how I would ever be happy again. I held on to the tiniest glimmer of hope and somehow found the courage to make my way towards the light. The light of love.

It was faith that shone the light of love in my way and helped smash through the bleakness of my life. My journey of recovery involved breaking down the psychological barriers that were keeping me in dark oppression.

I replaced each negative omen with a little ray of sunshine that came in the form of trust, kindness, hope, healing. And if you are fighting your way through some dark times let me offer each and every one of those to you too.

On those days when I feel the clouds have gathered or I’m in the midst of a personal storm I am reassured that it won’t be long before I feel the warmth of affection. Those that love Rengahenk_by_Doriahme are my little rays of sunshine. They are family and friends who illuminate my life and reveal the glittering promises of good things to come.

And it’s good to return the love. Even the smallest gestures can bring brightness to someone’s day. So follow the wise words from Amma;

‘Always have a smile on your face, kind words on your lips and a compassionate heart.’

 And you too can be a little ray of sunshine.

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28 thoughts on “A little ray of sunshine.

  1. There aren’t any people who are never depressed and feeling down. It’s just the proportion we keep between darkness and light in our life.

  2. This is fantastically written and is an inspiration to keep going for those in despair at the moment. Let your love shine and spread the joy! Than you for a great post!

  3. Wonderful and inspiring post, Carolyn. I do have times where I *choose* to look at the bleaker sides of things, and frankly, it just chews up my energy and serenity. Why would I choose to do that? Not sure – ego? Self-esteem issues? Old thinking? Like you I had a massive chunk of my life in darkness. While I am on the sunny side of the street now, I would be lying if I said I don’t linger into the darkness now and then. The difference now is that I see it for what it is, and make the gentle and kind shift back to light. It’s not always immediate, but I get back there. I didn’t have that ability in my past. And that’s the beauty of our journey is that we are self-aware and we can correct. and when I can’t, I pray for it. The Creator will course correct for me. He always does, even when I don’t ask for it or even know I need it!

    Thank you for this – beautiful piece.

    Blessings,
    Paul

    • You’ve hit the nail on the head Paul. It’s all about self-awareness and a faith that allows us that gift of grace. The dark times still come but somehow we can move forward into the light a lot sooner than before. Always lovely to see you here Paul.

      • When ever a follower has overcome unbelievable odds, like you, I try to suggest they two newest posts on this site about Dr. Dixit and Father Damien.
        They are two of the most inspirational Humans that I have ever written about and their stories are so positive and uplifting.
        So happy that you found it of value~

  4. Reblogged this on From guestwriters and commented:
    We should know that it has no use to let negativity overshadow our life. Though we do have to grow up with falling and standing up again, we always better try to stand up each time and to go on with the experience we got, using it not to weaken us but to sharpen us and to strengthen us in our life.
    Everytime we are confronted with something negative, we should take a deep breath and try to remember the better happenings, the events we enjoyed, the people who could give us some warmth and the friendships which are dear to us.
    The best reliance is the the deeper inner self, the trust in what is perhaps hidden deep in ourselves. Never shall alcohol, overeating, or drugs be of any real help. Sometimes it may look it can give some solace, but it shall not really bring alleviation.
    All being created in the image of God we should know we do have Somebody to count on. Wherever we are in whatever situation we might be, we should not feel lonely or on our own. If we really want to allow the Supreme Divine Creator enter in our life, He shall be willing to take our stretched out hand and to help us over the ridge, the dessert or the dangerous river.
    In Him we can find our Helper, our Sword, our Light and The One Who brings us further in this life.
    In and withHim we shall be able to feel the love and to give love to others so that they shall come closer to uw wanting to share the same feelings of unity and close friendship in this universe which has so much to offer.

    Always keep looking for the positive and believe in yourself, because you are here created and placed on this earth with reason. You will not always see it directly what your purpose in life will be, but when you continue your way you shall find out and find it worthwhile living.
    Success.

    • Thank you Marcus for sharing your positive and inspiring words. It can be hard to find the meaning to a trial in life, but like you I believe we are here for a reason and purpose. Looking forward to reading more of your comments.

  5. Carolyn, I love all the quotes you use they are my favorites. I have come from a negative background too and it has taken years to learn to live with the Hope that He goes us. His light shines in the darkness and eventually we become light as we let him take over the darkness.

  6. I always love your posts and your overall message. It is hopeful in times when the world seems too much.

    At the same time, I do think it’s important to acknowledge that it’s not always possible to smile away the pain. I don’t think that’s exactly what you are saying, but I feel strongly that sometimes we can be trying so hard to choose happiness, and doing it over and over again and then end up feeling even worse because we weren’t able to get there. Then we add an extra layer of shame at our inability on top of the darkness already present. Sometimes the sunshine can only come in the form of accepting the rain and trusting it will pass. Or maybe that’s just where I am today 🙂

    • I really agree with what you say here. Of course some pain takes a long time to pass and I don’t want to minimize that. And I know that you get that I’m not trying to make anyone who is suffering feel even more inadequate that they aren’t happy enough.
      I went through years of darkness and I do know what it’s like to feel like it is a never-ending struggle. I love what you say about accepting the rain and trusting it will pass because that is where hope is found. I hope that your stormy days will blow over very soon. Believe me, I’ve been there and it can be a very lonely place. So my best wishes and love to you as you battle on. Keep hopeful and know that you’re not alone. Your sunshine may not be blazing at the moment but there is always a little glimmer of better days to come. I do hope you don’t have to search too hard for your little ray of sunshine; you deserve it to be so much bigger 🙂

  7. Love your FULL glass, your perspective, your hopefulness, your insight.

    you. are. light.

    Love this verse: ‘Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.’ xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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