“A new day: Be open enough to see opportunities. Be wise enough to be grateful. Be courageous enough to be happy.” ~ Steve Maraboli
Life can be tough. And if you’ve ever had one of those days, that turns into one of those weeks it can be to hard embrace the new day and be happy. Everyone has difficult times and whilst it’s essential to your overall well-being to feel your emotions, but it’s also crucial to have some balance. You have to love your life too.
I long, as does every human being, to be at home wherever I find myself. ~ Maya Angelou.
I spent many years battling the depression and addiction that defined my existence. Whilst my circumstances had a huge part to play in how I felt, the fundamental issue was that I didn’t know how to enjoy my life because I didn’t how to enjoy being me.
Somehow everyone else seemed to have life that I could only dream of, because I was never good enough. And it was that principle that fueled the cycle of negativity and the belief that I could never love my life because deep down I felt I didn’t deserve it.
Loving your life means loving yourself. It’s having the reassurance that you are okay, even when everything and everyone else around you is falling apart or in turmoil. It’s accepting that you don’t have to be perfect, and that your imperfections are part of your uniqueness. It’s being at home with yourself, wherever you are.
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. ~ John 14:27 NIV
Having a strong sense of self-worth and confidence in your own abilities will also help during those times when life has become chaotic because of the actions of others. When your world is impacted by someone else’s bad choices it can be hard to find a sense of peace.
But even though feelings of frustration, anger and resentment can be overwhelming, it is still possible to find some calm in the storm. There may be nothing in the physical you can do to change the circumstances, but you can take control through the spiritual.
When you dig deep with all the power your mind and soul can muster you can find a place of peace. As soon as you refuse to give into the darkness, the light will reveal itself.It may only be the slightest glimmer. But a glimmer of light means hope. And even a flicker is infinitely better than no hope at all.
I know what it’s like to feel completely hopeless. My rock-bottom pit of depression and alcoholism was a very dark place indeed. It was filled with turmoil and torment that raged through my spirit and crushed my soul. Exhausted and desperate I couldn’t imagine that I could ever find peace.Yet I did.
I found my serenity by focusing on the tiniest speck of light that gave me a whisper of hope. That little speck of light was faith. And whilst I would have loved that glimmer to have had the immediate effect of a firework, it didn’t. I wasn’t suddenly cured of my difficulties in a spectacular blaze. I simply allowed the light there was, to gently glow like a candle to my soul.
As the light grew so did my understanding and my acceptance. I realised that life wasn’t meant to be only good or only bad. Life is made complete through the complexities of pleasure and pain. And it is possible to benefit from both.
So now I intend to play the game of life, being receptive to whatever comes to me, good and bad, sun and shadow forever alternating, and, in this way, also accepting my own nature with its positive and negative sides. Thus everything becomes more alive to me. ~ C.G.Jung
The game of life isn’t about spending each moment in an unrealistic state of euphoria, although it’s fabulous when everything is going great. Celebrate, rejoice and look forward to more of the same! And remembering those happy times will help reassure you will see the rainbow after the rain. Because sometimes trouble doesn’t gently drizzle down, it crashes through like a hurricane.
Believing that all things happen for a reason can help keep you positive in the hardest of situations. If I look back at some of the difficulties I have encountered, whether it be abuse, betrayal, alcoholism, self-esteem issues or loss, I can still remember the pain, but I have pushed through it. I may not understand why I had to experience some of those traumatic times, but I do recognise what I have learnt from them – insight, patience, forgiveness, empathy, serenity and gratitude.
So if you are finding it hard to enjoy your life, be reassured that something good can come out of something bad. And that from the darkness of today, it is possible for a brighter tomorrow to emerge.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. ~ Steve Jobs
As clichéd as it’s sounds, life is short. And your days too precious to be wasted through wishing you were someone else, somewhere else. It’s wonderful to want to change and grow as a person. It’s essential to have aspirations and dreams. But most of all it’s great to be the unique and special ‘you‘. It’s your life. Love it!
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Excellent post my friend… Your words inspire us to be better. You add light into our plane of existence.
Thank you so much for your kind words.
loved the post.
So glad that you did!
Such good remindersd to remember whose we are and that we can overcome.
Absolutely Marvia! Lovely to see you here 🙂
We all begin to blossom when we begin to accept and love who we are, especially after we humbled ourselves to God, the one who first loved us! His strength and energy is always found in the seeds of love which he plants in you each day to share. As you share with another, that seed begins to take hold in their life, and the more you share you also are being nourished daily by he who loves you and he strengthens your spirit, your soul, your heart and mind. There will still be times when you might become tired, sad, sometimes lonely, rattled maybe afraid…but he has given you a some key words when the storms come…you told me you read my poem out loud…well, His word is a living word, and when you are tired speak out loud these words “Peace be Still”. And you will find a restful peace to surround and embrace you! God bless you always!
Hi Wendell, You share such wisdom and strength in your words. And you make a very important point about the written word that is often overlooked, and that is the impact of speaking the word out loud. It can be very powerful! God Bless you too!
I absolutely love this post and have re-blogged it. It is wonderful to hear how far you have come in your personal journey and that you always held on to a glimmer of hope. You are a bright light in my life and a joy to know.
Thank you for all your love and encouragement Sandra!
It’s always a pleasure,
Reblogged this on quirkybooks and commented:
I just had to share this uplifting post with you. I was in a dark place years ago, not liking my life, or who I was, so I changed it. I changed my circumstances and my environment automatically changed as a result. I changed and developed myself until I was happy with the best version of me that there could be, and I am still evolving now. Nowadays I am happy with who I am, and comfortable in my own skin. I enjoy being quirky and pride myself on not being normal – If I can help it. Even though my life can still be up and down sometimes, I am the happiest I have ever been.
Be true to who you are. If you don’t like who you are, then make changes and become the greatest version of yourself that you were born to be.
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Thank you for reblogging Sandra. You’re a star!
Great post! Your tears have dug a well of living water and others find the strength and courage in it. Blessings, Natalie 🙂
What a beautiful comment Natalie. Thank you. Blessings 🙂
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Thank you for reblogging Annabianca. You have an interesting site! 🙂
Your welcome and thank you
Reblogged this on Women Who Think Too Much by Jeanne Marie.
Thank you for reblogging Jeanne Marie. I appreciate that!
I like to pass on your healing words!
I stumbled here today and now added you to my sidebar to remember to come here. I have blogged three years and don’t have near the following you do. You have a gift to share with the world and I am glad I found you for inspirational messages. I am 47 years young learning again, went back to college after raising my girl. So, I blog a little less but still read many. Bless you Carolyn.
Bless you too Jackie! So glad to have you here and I look forward to reading more of your posts too.
I know there are days when I can achieve nothing, because all next steps are in someone else’s power. What has changed in the past years is that I can accept that my role is to stay quiet — momentarily — surrounding myself in a good energy and waiting until it is my turn to re-engage. Having the faith that I’ll know when that is. (In the past I would not have been able to do that. I would not have had the belief that I could let go for even a minute.) I think you, too, know that feeling today … 😉
Staying still in the midst of chaos can be a challenge in itself Sharon, but so good to do! Thank you for sharing your wisdom 🙂
Love this, Carolyn, beautifully said.
Thank you so much Kerri. Lovely to see you here 🙂
Excellent posting- I always feel there is something within us that pulls us through the tough times. Sometimes this something feels very small, but I always feel its presence.
There’s always hope Kimberly and no matter how small it’s worth holding on to!
Another beautiful article – so full of wisdom, Carolyn. I especially liked these two sentiments, “I simply allowed the light there was, to gently glow like a candle to my soul,” and “I realised that life wasn’t meant to be only good or only bad.” It took me a great deal of “work,” patience, exploration and fortunately, always hope, to push through the dark, dark place I found myself in 2003 – the time when I finally started to rip open the shades to move past the pain of loving, living with untreated alcoholics / alcohol abusers. I so wish I’d had a steady stream of your posts back then. Each and every one of them is filled with wisdom, strength, hope and courage – thank you, Carolyn!
You have come such a long way Lisa and your story always inspires me. You managed to turn the negative into a positive in every aspect of your life. Fantastic!
Your writing here, even as your voice in the testimony your church recorded, is a deep well of wisdom and each time I come here I take a deep drink. I want to drink and drink and drink until your words saturate my soul.
Like these: “There may be nothing in the physical you can do to change the circumstances, but you can take control through the spiritual.
When you dig deep with all the power your mind and soul can muster you can find a place of peace. As soon as you refuse to give into the darkness, the light will reveal itself.It may only be the slightest glimmer. But a glimmer of light means hope. And even a flicker is infinitely better than no hope at all.”
This is the kind of truth that makes all the difference in the world – it’s the truth that liberates our souls, no matter how deep or murky the darkness. Thank you, Carolyn!!!
At the end of the day it’s all about finding our way out of the darkness and into the light Susan. Thank you for your encouragement and support.xx
Beautiful article! Its good to want to change & improve but don’t get lost in the change & not love where you are today.. today is your life.. live it. Thank you for this inspiration.
Thank you Pat. Great to see you here 🙂
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Thank you so much for including my post in your blog. I really appreciate that!
“A new day: Be open enough to see opportunities. Be wise enough to be grateful. Be courageous enough to be happy.” ~ Steve Maraboli…I love this. Its really a good way to start a new day and week. Nice piece.
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Thank you for your kind comments Michael. Wishing you lots of success with your new site.
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. ~ John 14:27 NIV
One of my ALL time favorite verses of HOPE.
Carolyn, the bits of light in the midst of darkness…YES, I grasp all of it. ALL of it.
The light & GOD is what gets me up in the morning.
LOVELY, beautiful Post. XXXXXXXXXXX
It’s just one of those quotes that always reassures isn’t it? Thank you as always for taking the time to encourage and uplift me with your comments Kim. XXXXX
Carolyn, I love these words you wrote, “I found my serenity by focusing on the tiniest speck of light that gave me a whisper of hope.” It’s amazing what a tiny whisper of hope can do for us, isn’t it? Love your writing, your posts so inspire me! 😉
Thank you so much for your lovely comments. Wonderful to have you here 🙂
This is excellent!!! I forwarded you URL to another blogger I’m following who’s dealing with depression. I hope she reads this! Blessings, Natalie 🙂
Thank you Natalie for reading and passing it on. Bless you!
🙂 You are very welcome. Hugs, Natalie
This is beautiful: “As soon as you refuse to give into the darkness, the light will reveal itself.” I so agree we really need to learn to love and believe in ourselves no matter what is happening externally. In many ways, externals are like a passing dream. They only become problematic when we cling on to them. I’m so happy you discovered how to bring light into the darkness.
Thank you Sandra for your insightful comments. I love your idea of viewing the external circumstances in terms of a passing dream. It reminds me of the saying ‘This too will pass.’ Something that’s always good to remember in tough times.
‘The not good enough’ conundrum, funnily enough that was part of the discussion with my therapist today and the fact I can intellectualise but don’t know how to feel. Very enlightening post. Good to read. Your story an inspiration to me and many like me who are fumbling in the sea in the dark, just looking for that that anchor to give us mooring. Whilst I breathe, my journey continues … x
Thank for sharing your own insights here Andrea. We all need some help to get our bearings in life sometimes. I love your last comment: ‘Whilst I breathe, my journey continues…’ That’s a truth.xx
“And that from the darkness of today, it is possible for a brighter tomorrow to emerge.” I love this post and these words are so very true!!! Thank you for surrounding my art with your beautiful words.
You are so welcome Kathleen. I love your art work. The pictures make my post come alive. 🙂
Thank you for this post. You seem to often hit on what I need to hear and that is definitely true today. I have been in a very dark place lately and last night I was in deep despair and wanting to get out of it so desperately. I kept envisioning what I believed is the essence of turning points, some sudden calm and surety, which never came. So to hear you speak about a tiny spark and nurturing it, tending it, gives me hope. Because I did feel that. In the midst of the pain, I saw a little hope but I didn’t think that was enough to matter. Your post tells me it does. Thank you.
I know from reading your posts that you have courage to overcome the heartbreak you are experiencing right now. Your little whisper of hope in the midst of that pain won’t go out. It will get stronger, as I know you are strong.
Thank you for sharing your heart. You are very welcome here. Take care. x
Thank you Carolyn, Love to you ❤
Love to you too ❤