Shooting for the moon.

moon-tree-stars“Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss you will land among stars.” Les Brown.

Who doesn’t want to shoot for the moon? To aim for something spectacular in life? To feel that life can be filled with infinite possibilities? I hope that you do.

Or is your belief that shooting for the moon is only for those who are special in some way? And you’re not good enough? Well, it’s not and you are.

When I was reminded of this quote this week, it made me smile. It’s clichéd and twee but with the right frame of mind it’s uplifting and fun. I say in the right frame of mind because I know that in the past I would have looked at it and thought that there was no point in me shooting for the moon, because there was no prospect of success. And there was no chance of my landing in the stars. Much more likely I would fall down a black hole and spiral further into my depressed and alcoholic oblivion.

“What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise.” ~ Oscar Wilde.

A childhood of being repeatedly reminded that I was worthless, ugly, fat and inadequate in every way, laid the foundation of an adult who became a self-fulfilling prophesy. I never believed in myself and couldn’t imagine anything good happening in my life.

There was no point having dreams because they would be crushed. There was no point having goals because they would never be achieved. There was no point planning for accomplishments because I was a failure. There was no point looking for love because I was unlovable.

It was hard to break out of that victim mentality. It took some radical rethinking and a strong will to change my life, but slowly I was able to overcome the negativity in my past and start to view my future with renewed optimism.

I remember a counsellor who having listened to my woes of my abandoning mother and abusing father as my justification for my emotional and physical wreckage, looked me straight in the eye and asked, ‘What makes you different?’ Essentially what she was saying was that we all have difficulties no matter who we are and we all have a choice as to how to deal with them. She was right. I was no different to anyone else.

Life is tough for everyone at different times and at different levels. Your response to challenges is what sets you apart. You don’t  have to beat yourself up when things don’t go to plan. You don’t have to give up because the moon is further away than you thought and it is harder to reach than you ever imagined.

Instead you can determine to enjoy the ride bumps and all. And you can use the hardships and heartaches as platforms for learning and growing.Keep your moon in sight and at the same time look around and find some stars to use as stepping-stones to your destination. Remember that a breakdown can be the experience that broke you or helped you break through.

“I’m not where I need to be, but thank God I’m not where I used to be. I’m OK, and I’m on my way!”  ~ Joyce Meyer.

My mindset used to come from a combination of never feeling good enough with comparing myself to others whose lives seemed perfect. If that rings a bell with you, let me give you some advice. Give yourself a break. Affirm with yourself that It’s okay not to be perfect. It’s okay to make mistakes.

As long as you are accountable, honest, realistic and genuine in making amends, it is possible to begin again free from shame and regret. Forgive yourself and celebrate the fact that you are a work in progress. You can change but the moon doesn’t have to. It will still be there to guide and inspire you.

“No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined the things that God has prepared for those who love him.” ~  1 Corinthians 2:9

For me though, passion and purpose are meaningless unless I have faith. Faith not only reassures me but fills me with expectations of what can be achieved. With the belief that the possibilities are endless and the impossible can be made possible, life becomes a journey filled with aspirations and hope .

Whatever your spiritual convictions, dare to dream that there is something greater than you wanting the best for you. Use your intuition to find and follow your heart’s desires. Reach into your unconscious and become consciously inspired.

“Yesterday is but today’s memory, and tomorrow is today’s dream.” ~ Khalil Gibran

file0001409747445No one knows what tomorrow will bring. But I do know that  I want to be a better person tomorrow than I was today. I don’t want to exist. I want to live. I don’t want to survive. I want to thrive.

I want today to be as good as it can be and for tomorrow to be even better. I want to shoot for the moon, for the stars and for everything else that there is out in the universe. Anyone want to join me?

Thank you to Paul at Message in a Bottle whose post http://messageinabottleblog.wordpress.com/2013/06/19/sainthood-scrupulousness-and-the-emerging-case-of-the-now-whats/ inspired me for this post.

52 thoughts on “Shooting for the moon.

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  2. I think this post is fantastic. I have shared it on my http://www.facebook.com/beatredundancyblues page as I think it may help beat their redundancy blues. I have to say that I changed my life when I found my purpose in life – to write and when I changed my mindset to a positive one. I used to suffer with depression but got myself out of it without medication. I believe in general, that life is good and that more great things are on their way. I live life now and don’t just survive it.

  3. Hi Carolyn,
    This is really a great reminder and a wonderful call. Yes, one need to aim for the highest with their hard work and am sure, even if they do not reach there they will get more closer to it,
    Good Going,
    I am here the first time
    Keep inform
    Best Regards
    Philip

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  5. No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined the things that God has prepared for those who love him.” ~ 1 Corinthians 2:9

    I have this shaded in deep yellow in my bible.

    Did I tell you after Kay’s murder….I heard this audibly in the middle of the night….

    Thank you, dear Carolyn. God is using you in a BIG way. Xxxx

  6. “…but with the right frame of mind it’s uplifting and fun”…very true ! Hii Carol. How’re you doing? You are certainly one of those that has made my blog what it is. Please accept this little gift of…..SEVEN AWARDS !!! God bless you. Check it out @ justmikemon.wordpress.com/2013/07/03/yet-another-bouquet-of-awards-seven-awards/….Congratulations

  7. Carolyn
    I love LOVE this post. I have fought those thoughts or feelings of unworthiness. So grateful that God reminds me who I am and what I’m made to do. Life is too short to live in fear. I want to live more boldly and keep shooting for the moon. What I am aiming for isn’t like what anyone else is aiming for; so my dreams matter. Your dreams matter. Our dreams matter because we each have a voice that is unique – voices the world needs to hear.

  8. I’m with you, Carolyn… and whether it’s cliche or not, I needed to be challenged today! I’m always tempted to shrink my dreams to fit whatever current limitations are foremost in my mind… but that doesn’t honor God and His desire to do something God-big in us. Sometimes I forget my life is not my own… I belong to Him. As His child, there’s nothing that He and I can’t accomplish together.

    It definitely takes radical rethinking to move from victim to survivor… and then onward to shooting for the moon! My heart is racing as I read your article today…. for joy… for possibilities… for grace, because failures are only stepping stones… star jumpers to the moon.

    I’m glad to see links to more of your story, too, Carolyn… because I want to hear more!

  9. I am totally with you here Carolyn. I love that last quote, as I usually get lost often I might miss the moon too ,but then I am among the stars, that is definitley the right way! Love this post!

  10. I love the saying “don’t tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon” 🙂 thank you for this lovely post. Having an abandoned mother and alcoholic emotionally uninvolved father I too relate to SO much of this. My therapist has also at times had to get ‘tough’ with me and basically say “woman up”…. in the most loving way possible. 🙂 it was probably some of the best advice he’s ever given me! I so get it. I didn’t want to hear it at the time of course…but I get it now. You’re an inspiration as always!

    • Sometimes it’s the toughest words that are the most freeing. Not easy to hear at the time! I am so glad you can relate. That is so wonderful to read because you inspire me too! 🙂

  11. I enjoyed reading about the profound transformation present in this piece. It can take time, but it can also seem sudden, when all the work and energy align, and we truly become different people. Thanks for the inspiration.

  12. “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined the things that God has prepared for those who love him.” ~ 1 Corinthians 2:9

    One of my favorites, Carolyn.

    —God sent me this verse in the middle of the night about 3 years ago.— I heard it clearly and verbally.

    Love! Xxx

  13. Thank you Carolyn for the shout out. That is very kind and generous of you…no surprise there 🙂

    I can relate to so much of this, of course. That balance, that fine line, that teetering spot between knowing that I am nothing special and yet that I am unique…well, not always easy to find. But to shoot for the moon – Hazzah! What a fantastic approach that I never ever would have thought of ever in my life. I too felt inadequate, not special, not good enough for much more than existing. I too want a little bit more than plain existence. A lot more. There are days my old thinking comes down to tear things down, but nowhere nearly as ferociously as it used to. Balance, corralling that faith and taking the actions that allow me to grow wider is where it is. And love…self-love and love for others…that is what keeps me out of those old ways.

    Thanks again for a beautiful post. Inspiring.

    Blessings,
    Paul

    • You are very welcome to the shout out Paul. I can always relate to your posts. Life really is all about balance in every area of our life, but there are so many things that can push us to extremes.
      Starting with self-love as you say is a good foundation. It helps us view things in perspective and keeps us from being to critical of ourselves which can lead us down a spiral of discontent.
      Thank you so much for your comments. Blessings to you too.

  14. Thankyou for this writing….god has used it to give me hope today….Thankyou. Christiana

    Sent from my iPad

  15. It’s a tough balance, I find. The realization that we are all the same and yet we all have unique qualities and gifts to give the world. And then living with gratitude that we are here at all and able to present those gifts to the world and accept that is enough and we can’t control what comes from the offering.

  16. That’s beautiful advice, Carolyn. I was just reading an email from a friend who was essentially saying the same thing. When we decide to appreciate the little things, everything becomes precious. I love that quote about the stars.

    And Carolyn, i await the day you announce the launch of your book. Hugs!

    • I couldn’t agree with you more Vidya. It is so important to appreciate the everyday things in life as well as the big events. And you will be among the first to know about my book. 🙂

  17. I had no idea you suffered from depression and alcoholism, well maybe I did I do recall I believe at one point you tried committing suicide.
    I want to get to this point, I love this post, it brings me much inspiration and hope, Thank You!

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